Maximize Your Influence

Power increases your charisma and ability to influence.  When we have certain forms of power, that power increases our perceived charisma and increases our ability to influence.  When we have legitimate forms of power, people will be more willing and want to take action.  Nearly every organization has some type of authority structure.  There are rules (written and unwritten) that dictate how people react to power and authority. 

 There are many forms of power and when used in the wrong way that power will back fire on you in the long term.  Managers always think they have great power, but it is much less than they usually realize.  The ability to reward and punish is not the power that will help in your ability to radiate charisma.  Your internal power will always outlast external power.

 Charismatics instinctively know and understand how to use different forms of positive power.  Power builds when you can help them get something they need or want.  Power is different from force.  It comes back to your intent.  Power creates trust, it strengthens, and it empowers.  Force must always be maintained, enforced, and warranted.  Force sucks the energy and life out of people.  True power encourages, revitalizes, and creates unity and synergy.  Power causes us to listen and obey.  Force causes us to be skeptical and run.

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 Charismatics don’t have power trips or feel the need force themselves on others or make other do things just for fun.  They understand how to use the proper forms of power and its ethical use.  Positive power opens up their audience and enhances their charisma.  Knowledge, expertise and authority are all forms of positive power.  Can you get the POWER?

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Have you ever met someone that did not seem that sharp, but was making 10 times more money than you?

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One element that increases your presence, charm and likability…..Is humor.  Great persuaders naturally develop rapport while using humor.  It is very unlikely that your audience will feel angry, depressed, anxious, guilty, or resentful while enjoying your humor.

Your humor can have a domino effect of goodwill and of instilling positive emotions in your audience. If you can help your audience members to feel happier, you will in turn open the locked doors of persuasion and influence. Humor also increases energy and productivity, which will feed your audience’s positive emotions even more.

Is Caffeine Persuasive?

Humor for persuaders not only connects you to your audience but also increases people’s attention to you and your message.  Humor also puts your audience in a good frame of mind. When your audience is in a good disposition, they are less likely to disagree with you.  When you develop rapport with your audience, they will like you more.  Humor also increases trust.  

 How do you use this tool of charisma?

Charisma Series: Get others to believe in you, trust you, and be influenced by you

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Do you have Presence?  Are you able captivate your audience or prospect?  You can tell when you meet a charismatic personal and when they enter a room.  People are drawn to them because deep down people want to be passionate about something and when they see that passion in your eyes, you become more charismatic.  They sense that you can help them and improve their lives.  This does not guarantee everyone will like you, but they will respect you for your conviction and your passion. 

Passion is very contagious.  When you transfer this passion, the people around you start to radiate that passion.  They perform better, if it is at work, it is no longer work.  They become more proactive, more willing to work as a team and become more optimistic.  When you have tapped into this passion you become more determined and it increases your persistence.  It starts to become a burning desire and consumes you and it radiates to others. 

How Mental Rehearsal Preps Us For Action

 A word of caution, just because you are passionate does not mean you can forego learning the skills you need to be successful.  It is a critical piece of the charisma pie, but you still need more pieces of the pie to radiate powerful long-term charisma.  Can you learn this skill?

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4 components to win an audience every time

Touch can help you influence and connect with people.  Touch can be a very effective psychological technique.  Subconsciously, most of us like to be touched; it makes us feel appreciated and builds rapport.  It is true, though, that we do need to be aware and careful of a small percentage of the population who dislikes being touched in any way.

In most instances, however, touch can help put people at ease and make them more receptive to you and your ideas. Touch increases influence.  When you are able to touch your prospect they usually becomes more agreeable, enhances mood and increases the chances they will agree and do what you are asking.

Touch can create a positive perception.  Touch carries with it favorable interpretations of immediacy, similarity, relaxation, and informality.  In one research study, librarians did one of two things to university students: either they did not touch the person at all during the exchange or they made light, physical contact by placing a hand over the student's palm. Invariably, those students who were touched during the transaction rated the library service more favorably than those who were not touched at all.  


Touch Story 

Waiters/waitresses who touched customers on the arm when asking if everything was okay received larger tips and were evaluated more favorably than those waiters who didn't touch their customers. Touch also induces customers to spend more time shopping in stores. In one study, physical contact on the part of salespeople induced customers to buy more and to evaluate the store more favorably.

 Even a handshake is touch.  Handshakes tell a story about you and if they will remember you.  It dictates your first impression that will last forever.  A good handshake will make someone feel appreciated and connected to you.  A bad handshake could set you back an hour in rapport building.  Are you touching too much?  Not enough?  Do you have a good/lame handshake?

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Learn how to get others to believe in you, trust you, and be influenced by you

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We have all had the experience of feeling an instant connection or bond with someone after just a few seconds of being in their presence. This is the Law of Connectivity. On the flip side we have all met someone that rubbed us the wrong way or repelled us.  We instantly did not want to be around them. This is caused by a lack of connectivity and usually takes only a few seconds to manifest itself. This disconnect closes the door to persuasion.


The Law of Connectivity states that the more someone feels connected to, similar to, liked by, or attracted to you, the more persuasive you become. When you create an instant bond or connection, people feel more comfortable and open around you. They will feel like they have known you for a long time and that they can easily relate to you.

When we feel connected with someone, we feel comfortable and understood; they can relate to us and a sense of trust ensues.  This connectivity is critical on the phone, during a presentation or using social media.

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